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DEAR QUEEN GABBY!
______________________Slam poet and spoken word artist from Chicago, IL. Queen Gabby is one of the founding members of SaYes2Poetry who landed a position as an advice columnist for The Soultown after dominating the Oakland, CA poetry circuit with her provocative, opinionated poetry pieces. In 2012, she coached San Jose's youth Brave New Voices poetry team to Berkeley, CA and Chicago, IL. She is working on her first novel and currently resides in Waterloo, IA.
FEMALE ADVICE COLUMNIST
Dear Queen Gabby,
Happy New Year! I feel like this is the time of the year I can get a fresh start. I want to eat right, exercise, read, and be the best person I can be. This includes making better choices with men and being authentic. I guess what I mean is the person I am in person, as I also want to be online. Do you have any advice on how I should present or represent myself on social media without appearing to be fake?
~ Brand New Me!
Dear Brand New Me,
I am glad you asked this question. I see people all the time trying to be something they are not. The internet gives people a personality they really do not possess. Shy individuals become more outspoken, men are able to flirt just by typing, and we are made to believe people are living their best lives. My advice is to keep it real, ALWAYS! Everyone watches you on social media. They want to see how you move, what you post, and the things you share. If you are constantly posting things on social media that don’t represent you, you’ve created a character. I make sure what I post, match up with who I really am. I like to laugh, so you’ll see a meme or two. I also go through real-life experiences that other people may or may not relate to, so I post just to see who feels me or not. People are going to portray you by how you present yourself on the internet. Don’t create a villain, when you’re really a superhero.
~ Queen Gabby
Dear Queen Gabby,
I am a sophomore in college and I have never had a boyfriend. I am a female. It seems like most men these days like men and women. Is this acceptable? I am not a judgmental person, but when I dreamed of my life partner, I dreamed of the opposite sex. Am I wrong? Did I miss something? I’m sorry if I sound mean, but I guess I am just confused.
~ All Woman!
Dear All Woman,
Unfortunately, we have to deal with things like this now. If you envision yourself being with the opposite sex, then do so. Don’t let this new way of things alter how you really feel. I’ve seen more than often, women settling for a man knowing that he’s bisexual. That doesn’t have to be your life. Straight men still exist, even though they are harder to find these days. Always ask questions, that’s my greatest advice in this situation. You did not miss anything, people are just more open than ever before, and pretty much anything is acceptable. If a heterosexual relationship is what you want, stick with that. Don’t let social media and others change your mind. We straight people still exist. Now go find you a man, who isn’t interested in men, girl!
~ Queen Gabby
Get more advice from Queen Gabby in next months issue.